One of the many issues that Dr. Peyman Saadat has seen come up for those of us struggling with fertility is what to tell our family and friends. Sometimes even the most caring relative or friend can offer suggestions or advice that can be hurtful simply because they are unaware. You might wish to decide how much, if anything, you choose to reveal early into your fertility treatment, to avoid unnecessary emotional pain and any awkwardness that may unintentionally arise.
The first step is a conversation between you and your partner, or if doing this alone, a period of inner reflection, as to what and how much you are comfortable revealing, and to whom. It is one thing to confide in your closest friend and a completely different matter to discuss this with a co-worker you barely know. Recognize the difference between you and your partner as well – one of you may be more open to talking about it than the other, and this too must be respected.
Dr. Peyman Saadat also suggests that you may want to discuss certain words or phrases that you both will use. Perhaps rather than saying “infertility” or “IVF” you might want to say, “having difficulty getting pregnant”, and ” getting a bit of help from a doctor”. Remember, there is no right or wrong to this, the goal is to give you control over dispersing information about your own situation in a way that is most comfortable for you.
Hopefully, you are not feeling anxious or embarrassed about undergoing fertility treatment. If anything the courage that it takes to even make the first appointment should make you feel proud of yourself! Keep in mind that you never know who you may be encouraging to seek help – they may not have felt comfortable revealing their own struggle yet.
In the end, you need to go at your own pace and only discuss what you are comfortable revealing. Practice what you might say in uncomfortable situations. And take care of yourself and each other. This is a stressful time and you need to do what you can to minimize the impact fertility treatment has on your daily life. When you are ready, call Dr. Peyman Saadat and the staff of RFC at (310.929.6707) – we are here to help you become the parents you were meant to be.